Father of the bride

Remember this  movie by Steve Martin ,Father of the Bride ,it had a sequel to it….i cried at the end of both movies and every time i watch repeats i cry too.

Then  when  i started reading Danielle Steel Novels in my pre teens, it was to find  myself in tears whenever any character in the  book died .

I love going to weddings,  gushing over newborns and rubbing my cheek against my husbands beard.

And when i meet a girlfriend(s) for lunch or coffee  it is total bliss because we talk for hours!

Things men do not understand.

Well, men need not wonder any more because that is how little girls and not so little girls are and we meant to be.

A friend allowed me to borrow her book ,Bringing up Girls by James Dobson .

The book ended up bringing me to  understanding and  and acceptance of  myself just as i am.

Like the way my brain is wired right from conception is astounding.

Female brains have been designed in a way that is  very different from men’s.

In the book Dr Dobson who  a  former professor  of Paediatrics at  the University of Southern California school of medicine  says that a girls corpus callosum,the massive rope of fibres that connects the right and left hemispheres of the brain is 25% larger than a males.

A womans brain is like a revved up  Harley Davidson engine ,we do not have a turn off button.

We never seem to stop thinking.

Sometimes I  go to bed thinking about 20 things i need to do and the next morning i just pick up my thoughts from where i left off.

See why we are so good at multi tasking.

And we seem to never stop talking.

We do love to talk and we express ourselves more than men.

The right hemisphere of  our brain processes emotion and the left   is where language is focused.

And the connection between the two is like a super highway,it is the reason we communciate better as well as feel emotion more and express ourselves more than

We are  good at knowing things without exactly knowing why,  picking up subtle cues in social interactions and cannot even explain how .

It  is great to be a woman.

Women derive so much pleasure from conversations with other women  , think about all the talk shows that have thrived on this need to communicate .

Men can attest to this because when a woman runs into a friend what was supposed to  be a brief hello turns  into a recap of the past week …  in detail.

Social media is also a great example……the need to connect ,share and communicate is so innate in us we dominate every social media network.

Yes,it is alright to have a female brain and to celebrate  the unique and beautiful way we have been created and  to leave the world  a better place  for the next generation.

I absolutely love being a woman.

And if you missed it,here is  my Father’s day post.

Share in the comments sections the things you love about being a woman.




Mr Nyagah is a voracious reader,writer,prolific storyteller ,film producer but best of all he is my dad.

On the 21st of June the world will celebrate Father’s Day and i will be celebrating the great father has been.

The first Father’s Day celebration go back almost 100 years back, to  June 19th,1910 in Washington State.

Sonora Smart Dodd one of 6 children raised by her widowed dad went round  drumming up support  to  honor fathers.From then on  the holiday has spread to other parts of the world.

Fathers’ day does not feature or even have as much publicity as Mother’s day probably because Fathers are not as sentimental as mothers ,but they still matter and we should celebrate them.

A father  gives a child identity and belonging and in a world where male children get a lot of bashing we need to honor fathers so that they become positive role models for their children and other young boys who may look up to them.

While most men make the transition to fatherhood biologically,fathering requires that one makes the transition psychologically and behaviorally

Rob Palkovitz a professor at the University of Delaware has written a chapter in the  book  Why Fathers Matter:The Importance of Fathers and their Involvement with Children by Sean E brotherson and Joseph M White.He says that when Fathers embrace the role of fathering it brings the greatest changes in a man’s life and development as a person.

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Being a father brings a new set of responsibilities unlike those of a husband.It will affect the choices a man makes as well as his behaviour in everyday life.

It is a role men grow into and  it takes time.

When a father nurtures the relationship he has with his children,they are less likely to be prone to problems such as depression,suicide,pre marital sex and drug or alcohol abuse .

A fathers love is best exemplified in the sacrifices they make for their children,the time taken off work to attend their children’s sporting activities at school,driving them to a friends birthday party or with homework and in so many other ways.

A father’s love will endure throughout their children’s lives through the choices they make and the affection and support they give to their children as they grow up.

It is to my dad that i owe my love for reading and writing,he made me read newspapers from the age of  9.

My husband is also an amazing father and i know so many other wonderful fathers out there who are bringing up the next generation of world changers and influencers.

This blog post is dedicated to you.

You are doing a great job!

Do share your thoughts on what fathers are and your favourite memories of your dads.