A time will come when as a parent you will have to organize a party for your child,in most instances  it will birthday parties  that will form the majority of these celebrations.

How you go about  organizing one will be an opportunity  to teach your child about social graces that they will carry with them through life.

In organizing for one, bear  in mind your budget and your child’s taste and definitely have some activity or entertainment in mind as children do get easily distracted.

1.Let your child help in providing the guest list .

Age range should be narrow as five year old’s and 10 year old’s  not get along very well.

2.Teach your child the importance of returning hospitality,get him or her to invite those who have invited them to parties.

3.The space you have available will determine the number of guests you can host.

4.Get an adult  helper if you will have more than 10 children attending the party.

5.If your child is inviting the whole class ensure no one is left out and explain to them the misery of being the odd one out not getting invited to the party.

6.Send out the party invites 2-3 weeks before the event to allow parents bringing their children to the party enough time to plan,include the reason for the event and the time when you expect it to start and end.

7.Let the children play before they eat.

8.Generally a party should not last more than 3 hours,the perfect time for having one is   between 3-6 pm.

9.If you are hiring an entertainer for the children let that be the last event of the day before children are picked by the parents,they will be less fussy .then

10.Let the children have fun.

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Train up a child in the way he should go even and when  he is old he shall not turn from it..Proverbs 22:6

Children are not naturally inclined to be well behaved.

Good behavior in children is taught and  nurtured .

Being around a child or grown up who is well mannered is a pleasure and a delight and it is a skill that in life will open doors.

A book i have been reading set in the period just before the 2nd world war says that the sign of a well brought up child is gratitude.

And the best person to teach your child good manners is a parent or guardian by setting a good example.

The best time to instill good behavior and manners and before they get to 7 years of age.

A good place to start is  by expressing gratitude in the presence of your child for something your spouse or someone else has done.

It is a sign of  respect to be well mannered towards  everyone you meet,no matter what social class they belong to.

Acknowledge the help you have received from others.

When you are out shopping ,take this as an opportunity to teach your child  by expressing gratitude for help you have received from the service staff .

If you are a Christian you express gratitude by saying grace before meals,thanking God for the provision of food.

The rainy season in Kenya just started after a dry spell,at the first drops of rain i said a prayer together with my children thanking God for the rain.

Express gratitude that the rain shall feed the crops out in the fields and there shall be food on your plates as well as in the homes of millions of other people.

Training in good manners requires patience and you may only see the results months after you started it .

Begin when your child is young,be patient and keep repeating the lessons.

I would love to hear from you.Share your ideas on how we can bring up well mannered children in our comments section





I grew up with a dad who worked in the Film industry.

He had a lot of books on Film scattered around the house and i read them.

And i got introduced to the idea of nuances of  TV content.

A little while ago i was watching a criminologist on the German TV channel,Deutsche Welle discuss aggression and he said that we all get affected by the environment around us.

A child  who grows up in aggressive family,has aggressive friends and watches aggressive movies they will no doubt exhibit aggressions as he grows up.

Now seeing that i spend a lot of time working from home,i get to watch a lot of TV programs on so called Kids channels and they definitely aren’t  child like.

And i put in place what i thought were adequate measures to ensure they were not exposed to unsavory content.

My 9 year old knows the programs they can watch and they are some Kids channels that they absolutely cannot tune into.

I try to ensure that i first watch any new programs with them before i give them an OK.

But sometimes as i found out that is not enough.

When i heard my son use the word dummy referring to his sisters Barbie doll and i was stunned.

Where and  did he pick that up from ?

I asked him and one of the channels runs a cartoon of a boy who has a pet snake,that is where he got the word from

He knows we do not use any abusive language in our house and so after some explaining that the word was not a good one,it got me thinking…..

How many parents whether working from home or away from home ,ensure they have put in place the essential parental controls on the cable TV only to find their children using very colorful language?

Also most of the scripts are actually full of adult content and themes only that we have little people children performing them which makes them seem innocuous and innocent..

Next time you are at home,take some time to watch what you children are interested in and let me know what you think.

While we cannot completely eliminate TV watching,we can take some steps to ensure that what children watch is developmentally appropriate for their age.

  • View TV programs with your children,be the judge and use this time to guide them as to what content is appropriate .
  • Select shows for your children that are appropriate for their age.
  • Limit the amount of TV your children are watching each day.
  • Switch off the TV during mealtimes and family time.
  • Turn off the TV and let your children read a book,do a craft or play outside.
  • Turn off shows that are not appropriate