WHY YOU ARE NOT LOSING WEIGHT….

 

Take care

A few years back, I showed my now  pre teen daughter ,photos of myself while at the university.

She could not believe it was me.

To be honest she laughed until she cried.

And still did not believe it was me.

I had to take a look at that photo again to confirm that indeed it was me in all my chubby glory.

I was so round ,bouncing off a wall if inadvertently someone knocked me against one would have been pretty easy.

Looking at that picture now,I almost doubt that it is me ,struggling with my weight and pretending I was fine with it.

For every 10  women you meet 9 are struggling with some weight issue.It is never evident at first glance, but we are all as women struggling with something and it manifests itself through the food we indulge in or deny ourselves.

My fluctuating weight was  evidence of the emotional turmoil I was going through on the inside.

I was an emotional eater.Most women are emotional eaters.

We eat and drink when we are happy,unhappy and when we are really really happy with life,we do not even feel hungry.We just feed of our emotional high (like when we are in love) to keep on going  and when the high goes,we can really eat .

My go to foods were  chocolate,ice cream or anything deep fried at  the drop of   a hat    which in a heartbeat were my pick me ups  whenever I was going through some emotional upheaval.

It could be a breakup you are going through,stress at work or just the  feeling that you are stuck in  some area of your life,it does not matter what it is but your body tells you there is something wrong and the only way to “fix “it is get something in your mouth or so we think.

I know I did that several times, taking comfort in food,much easier and tastes really good at the time.

These  experiences taught me something about food,the struggle with weight and wellness.

That sometimes the battle you are fighting is not what people see on the outside,it is what is going on from  the inside that will determine what eventually lands on your plate.

No matter how many diets you go through,how much you read about the benefits of healthy eating,nothing will start working until you fix what is not right from the inside.

The journey to a healthier life starts from the inside and even when you do not feel like it,eat the apple,take the salads,drink more water,cut back on the unhealthy foods and replace them with more fresh vegetables and fruits and magic starts to happen.

It takes some getting used to,remembering that the body you have is the only one you will ever have to take you through life as well as achieve your dreams helps some.

Take care of it.

Have  you ever  struggled with weight and would you call yourself an emotional eater,what helped you get back on your journey to living healthier?I would love to hear from you.

 

THE WONDERFUL WORLD OF BEING A WOMAN

Father of the bride

Remember this  movie by Steve Martin ,Father of the Bride ,it had a sequel to it….i cried at the end of both movies and every time i watch repeats i cry too.

Then  when  i started reading Danielle Steel Novels in my pre teens, it was to find  myself in tears whenever any character in the  book died .

I love going to weddings,  gushing over newborns and rubbing my cheek against my husbands beard.

And when i meet a girlfriend(s) for lunch or coffee  it is total bliss because we talk for hours!

Things men do not understand.

Well, men need not wonder any more because that is how little girls and not so little girls are and we meant to be.

A friend allowed me to borrow her book ,Bringing up Girls by James Dobson .

The book ended up bringing me to  understanding and  and acceptance of  myself just as i am.

Like the way my brain is wired right from conception is astounding.

Female brains have been designed in a way that is  very different from men’s.

In the book Dr Dobson who  a  former professor  of Paediatrics at  the University of Southern California school of medicine  says that a girls corpus callosum,the massive rope of fibres that connects the right and left hemispheres of the brain is 25% larger than a males.

A womans brain is like a revved up  Harley Davidson engine ,we do not have a turn off button.

We never seem to stop thinking.

Sometimes I  go to bed thinking about 20 things i need to do and the next morning i just pick up my thoughts from where i left off.

See why we are so good at multi tasking.

And we seem to never stop talking.

We do love to talk and we express ourselves more than men.

The right hemisphere of  our brain processes emotion and the left   is where language is focused.

And the connection between the two is like a super highway,it is the reason we communciate better as well as feel emotion more and express ourselves more than

We are  good at knowing things without exactly knowing why,  picking up subtle cues in social interactions and cannot even explain how .

It  is great to be a woman.

Women derive so much pleasure from conversations with other women  , think about all the talk shows that have thrived on this need to communicate .

Men can attest to this because when a woman runs into a friend what was supposed to  be a brief hello turns  into a recap of the past week …  in detail.

Social media is also a great example……the need to connect ,share and communicate is so innate in us we dominate every social media network.

Yes,it is alright to have a female brain and to celebrate  the unique and beautiful way we have been created and  to leave the world  a better place  for the next generation.

I absolutely love being a woman.

And if you missed it,here is  my Father’s day post.

Share in the comments sections the things you love about being a woman.

Xo,

Ina